How to Choose the Perfect Role Play Costume
For some, the words “role play” send a thrill down their spine; for others, it conjures up the uncomfortable memories of forced team-building exercises.
But role play in the bedroom is about so much more than just acting out a secret fantasy. By stepping into a different character, many people find it easier to explore new experiences and desires they might not normally express. This not only adds excitement but also deepens the connection with their partner.
So, how do you dive into role play without feeling awkward or silly? Keep reading to discover how to choose the perfect scenario and outfit, and how to fully embrace the fun and fulfillment of character play.
What do you want?
Ah, the age-old question. But if you’re thinking about adding a bit of role play to your love life, it’s crucial to consider what you hope to achieve from it.
Maybe you’re curious about trying something new, like bondage, but feel too shy to bring it up as yourself. In that case, a police-themed role play can be a fun and non-threatening way to ease into it—after all, handcuffs are part of the uniform, right?
Or perhaps you want to mix things up without diving into a full costume. Something as simple as wearing a wig or a new piece of clothing, heading to a bar with your partner, and pretending to be strangers locking eyes across the room can reignite the spark without pushing you too far out of your comfort zone.
You might also want to think about the power dynamics you’re interested in. If you’d like your partner to take charge, scenarios where you’re the submissive party (like secretary and boss, doctor and patient, or master/mistress and slave) are perfect. Want to be in control? Just switch the roles.
Whether you have a specific scenario in mind or just want to try something different, identifying your desires can guide how the role play unfolds and take some of the pressure off for both you and your partner.
Talk it through
Once you’ve figured out what you want, the next step is to talk about it. After all, if you just hand them a skimpy firefighter outfit without any explanation, they might be hesitant to play along.
Clearly explain what you envision for your fantasy. When your partner knows exactly what you’re aiming for, it’s easier for them to improvise around the “plot” instead of just winging it. This way, you both avoid feeling awkward and ensure your desires are met.
If you’re worried that your fantasy might make them feel insecure—like you’re attracted to every police officer you see—try framing it as a dream where they play the role you want. For example, “I had a dream where you were a police officer who handcuffed my hands behind my back and took control” might be easier for them to accept than, “I want to have sex with a cop.”
This is also the perfect time to set your boundaries. Discuss what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not okay with, whether it’s actions or certain words. If you’re incorporating bondage, agree on a safe word so your partner knows exactly when to stop.
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Plan your outfit
Now that you’ve got a clear idea of what your role play will involve, it’s time to choose your costume. In our Sexy Costumes section, we offer a wide range of uniforms, outfits, and accessories to suit any fantasy—whether you’re aiming for a classic schoolgirl look or something more daring like a “butler in the buff” scenario.
If the idea of dressing up makes you a bit nervous, don’t worry—you don’t have to go all out right away. Start with small accessories like a stethoscope or a hat to set the scene. Just like with regular clothing, it’s important to pick styles that make you feel comfortable and confident.
Consider your body shape and look for costumes that resemble styles you already wear. If you want to balance out your hips and bottom, a flared skirt can be incredibly flattering. For those who are self-conscious about their arms, choose costumes with sleeves.
Costumes with cut-outs are perfect for highlighting a slim waist, while plunging necklines or front zippers can help showcase your cleavage.
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With your scenario set and the perfect costume in hand, the next step is to create your scene. Does your fantasy involve a desk? Make sure it’s nearby and clear it of anything breakable. Planning an interrogation? Dim the lights and leave just one lamp on to create that intense atmosphere.
By transforming your setting with a few simple touches, you can more easily transport yourselves out of your living room or bedroom and into a classroom, prison cell, or any other fantasy location. This added authenticity will make your role play even more immersive and enjoyable.
And if you get the giggles along the way? Don’t worry—it’s all part of the fun!
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