How to Eat Ass:
Tips and Techniques for A+ Analingus
Putting a hole new meaning to the term ‘ass kisser.’
Analingus is known by many names and terms—‘rimming,’ ‘eating ass,’ ‘salad tossing,’ and, regrettably, ‘tongue punching the fart box’ are just a few of the euphemisms for this sexual activity.
Once considered taboo and perverse, analingus now enjoys a more positive image, thanks in part to pop culture. Respected musical artists have openly expressed their fondness for it—think of Jhené Aiko’s line in “Post to Be” where she says a lover should “gotta eat the booty like groceries,” and Megan Thee Stallion’s witty remark in “WAP” that a partner who eats her ass is a “bottom-feeder.”
If you’ve found this article, you’re likely ready to embrace the pleasure of analingus without the societal stigma. With some expert advice, you’ll quickly become a pro at this pleasure. Here’s what you need to know:
- How to discuss booty munching with your partner
- The importance of cleanliness
- Understanding anal anatomy
- Rim job sex positions
And, most importantly, how to eat ass like a superstar!
What is Analingus?
Analingus, often called “rimming” or “eating ass,” is a type of oral sex where the anus is stimulated using the mouth and tongue. Although some people might insert their tongue into their partner’s rectum during analingus, most rim jobs focus on the outer part of the anus, which is why it’s called “rim.”
Consent and Communication
Always ask before diving into someone’s ass! Just because your mouth is near your partner’s bum doesn’t mean you have the green light to start kissing it. Make sure you have enthusiastic consent before you begin rimming and remember that consent can be withdrawn at any time for any reason.
Consent is a two-way street. Never pressure someone into giving you analingus, and don’t assume they will. I’ll never forget that Sex and the City episode where a man Miranda is sleeping with keeps shoving his bum in her face hoping she’ll eat it (Season 4, Episode 6 – “Baby, Talk Is Cheap,” if you’re curious.) Don’t be like that guy – nobody should be like that guy.
But there’s more to discuss than just asking, “Do you wanna?”. Lovers should have an open dialogue before, during, and after engaging in analingus. Consider the following talking points (and follow-up questions because the more thorough you are in communication, the better!) for healthy conversations surrounding rim jobs.
Questions to Ask Before Analingus:
- Have you ever tried analingus?
- (If they have tried analingus before):
- Did you enjoy it, and would you be open to trying it again?
- What did you like and dislike about it?
- (If they haven’t tried analingus before):
- Would you be interested in trying it out together?
- What can I do to make you feel the most comfortable during analingus?
- What sort of preparation would you like us to employ if we were to explore analingus?
Questions to Ask During Analingus:
- Are you comfortable?
- Does this feel good?
Questions to Ask After Analingus:
- Did you enjoy that?
- How do you now feel physically and emotionally?
- What did you like and dislike about that?
- Would you be interested in doing that again?
- Is there anything you’d like me to change up for next time?
Cleanliness and Safety
Personal hygiene is always a key factor when indulging in booty play, but especially so when ass eating is on the table. An unwashed puckered hole is unsafe to pucker your lips against as it can lead to the transfer of harmful bacteria like E. coli and salmonella. So, before you put your mouth where the sun don’t shine, make sure your partner washes all external portions of their ass with water and mild soap.
Another safety measure to consider is the potential for STI transmission. You can reduce such risks by using safer-sex barrier methods like dental dams.
Understanding Anal Anatomy
Mastering the art of pleasing the human body starts with understanding its intricacies! This primer on anal anatomy will set you on the path to becoming an analingus virtuoso.
The exterior anal region is rich in nerve endings (which explains the exhilarating sensations during anal play!) and is made up of four key components:
Buttocks
(Informally known as: ‘butt cheeks’)
Medically termed “glutes,” the butt cheeks are composed of three muscles: the gluteus maximus, gluteus medius, and gluteus minimus. Like other muscles, they respond positively to squeezing and massage.
Intergluteal Cleft
(Informally known as: ‘butt crack’)
This is the space between the cheeks! Since this area is rarely touched, its nerve endings remain intact, making it more sensitive than other fleshy parts of the body.
Anus
(Informally known as: ‘butthole’)
The anus is a wrinkled opening consisting of two muscular rings – the external and internal sphincters. It houses the second highest concentration of nerve endings in the human body. (Curious about where the highest concentration is? You guessed it – the clitoris!)
Perineum
(Informally known as: ‘taint’ or ‘gooch’)
The perineum is a pressure point situated between the anus and genitals.Remember, our focus here is on sex, not science, so we’ve kept this overview straightforward. There’s much more to anal anatomy than we’ve discussed, so if you’re keen to learn more, delve into detailed research from a credible medical source or consult a local sex educator.
How to Perform Analingus
Now that you have some background info on indulging in backside pleasures, it’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty!
Step 1: Rev Yourselves Up
Going from 0 to 100 is rarely a recipe for sexual satisfaction, so don’t forget to employ ample foreplay before diving into the main event. The more turned on you both are before analingus takes place, the more pleasurable it will be!
After engaging in plenty of standard foreplay (‘standard’ meaning whatever acts the two of you typically enjoy to get hot and bothered), you may want to spend extra time and attention providing anal foreplay.
Since you’re now already familiar with anal anatomy (you’re welcome!), put that knowledge to use by giving love to each of the booty’s pleasure zones (that you and your partner agree upon, of course).
To stimulate your partner’s butt cheeks, you might try:
- Kneading and massaging
- Kissing, licking, and gently nipping
- Sensory play with ice cubes or sex toys like feather ticklers
- Giving them a light (or hearty!) spanking with your hands or impact play tools
To stimulate your partner’s perineum, you might try:
- Wearing a finger vibrator and resting your now-vibrating finger against their gooch
- Gently tickling or rubbing it
- Using lubricant and a sensory-enhancing finger sleeve while lightly massaging
To stimulate your partner’s anus during foreplay, you might try:
- Gently blowing onto it
- Teasing it by running your finger in circles around the area, starting with a large circle and slowly closing in on your target
- Lightly rubbing and massaging
And always make sure your nails are neatly trimmed and filed before playing with your boo’s booty to avoid any injuries!
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Before you dine at a fine restaurant, you need to take a seat at the table, right? Likewise, prior to indulging in your partner’s puckered pleasure hole, you’ll both need to assume a good position first. The best positions for analingus will provide the giver with easy access to their lover’s b-hole and be easy to maintain for long periods of time for both parties.
Need a little inspiration? No worries, we’ve got your backside covered. We provide a few specific analingus positions in a later section, paired with tasteful illustrations so you know exactly what to do.
Step 3: Start Lickin’
You’ve done all the prep work – now it’s time to let your skills shine. The best booty lickers don’t just stick to one type of movement but keep a few in their arse-inal and switch between them.
PRO TIP: Vary your approach
All of these analingus techniques can be executed in a variety of ways. Experiment with different tongue shapes (flat or pointed licks), pressures (firm, medium, gentle), and speeds (fast, slow, or alternating) to discover what feels best for both you and your partner.
Here are a few moves to consider:
The Straight Shooter
Gently trace your tongue along the entire length of your partner’s intergluteal cleft, starting from the top and moving to the bottom. Then reverse direction, going from the bottom back up to the top. Continue this pattern for as long as both of you enjoy it.
The Side Swipe
Move your tongue horizontally across your partner’s anus, starting from the left and sweeping to the right, then reversing direction and going back again. Maintain this continuous back-and-forth motion, keeping steady contact without pausing.
Around the World
Trace your tongue around the rim of your partner’s anus in a series of clockwise circles. When you feel like mixing it up, reverse the direction and perform the same motion in a counter-clockwise direction.
Many Moons
Begin with your tongue at the left side of the center of your partner’s butthole. Lick in a half-circle pattern along the top half of their hole, moving from left to right until you reach the center-right of their anus. Return your tongue to the initial starting point and repeat the same motion on the bottom half of your partner’s b-hole.
Step 4: Ask for and Listen to Feedback
Every body and booty are different—what feels great for one person’s anus might feel icky for another. Be sure to check in with your partner now and then and incorporate their responses and requests into your ass-eating sesh.
Bonus Step for Pros: Enhance Stimulation
While employing expert analingus techniques (like the ones you learned in this guide!) will make for a stellar rim job, adding stimulation to erogenous zones beyond the booty can up the ante and make for an unforgettable experience.While your mouth is busy servicing your lover’s butthole, make use of your hands or sex toys to delight their genitals simultaneously.
To provide extra stimulation for vagina owners, you might try:
- Fingering them
- Playing with their clitoris
- Having them or you hold a bullet vibrator or wand massager against their clit
- Thrusting a dildo or internal vibrator inside their vagina
- Having them wear a wearable vibrator that doesn’t interfere with access to their booty
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Rim Job Sex Positions
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Peachy Keen
How to Do It:
Have the receiver lie face down on a comfy surface with their legs spread apart. The receiver should then kneel or lie down between their partner’s spread legs.
Why It Rocks:
“Peachy Keen” is the perfect rim job position for beginners that even experts often return to. It’s comfortable and easy to maintain for both partners and requires zero effort from the receiver, so they can relax and fully focus on the amazing anal stimulation their lover is providing.
The Snail
How to Do It:
Have the receiver rest on their knees and bend over, placing their arms on the bed or ground (or whatever surface they’re using) for support. The giver will then kneel just behind their partner and get to work on their behind!
Why It Rocks:
With the receiver’s booty elevated, “The Snail” provides supremely easy access to their anus. This position is great for both the giver and the receiver.
(PRO TIP: You can enhance comfort for the receiver by having them rest their torso on a sex ramp.)
The Rose Throne
How to Do It:
Have the giver lie on their back. Once the giver is in position, the receiver should get on their knees and straddle their partner’s face.
Why It Rocks:
Face-sitting positions give the receiver more control over pressure and intensity. They can move their body up or down depending on whether they want more or less stimulation. This allows the receiver to be active in their pleasure and takes some pressure off the giver.
Analingus Aftercare
Aftercare in the context of sex refers to the actions taken post-play to ensure the well-being of all parties, both physically and emotionally.
Analingus Aftercare for Physical Well-Being
No matter how thorough your hygiene preparation, sex can still be messy. Even if everything looks clean, there are unseen bacteria lingering in intimate areas. These bacteria can spread to other body parts during sexual activity, so it’s important to follow a thorough cleansing routine afterward to prevent infection.
A few good practices for physical health aftercare include:
- A comprehensive oral hygiene routine, including brushing the teeth and tongue, using mouthwash, and washing the lips.
- Washing the face and hands.
- Showering.
- Washing the anal area of the receiver.
Analingus Aftercare for Emotional Well-Being
The intimacy involved in sex can make some people feel vulnerable afterward, especially if it’s their first time trying something new like analingus. Recognize this potential and give your partner space to share their feelings. Reassure and comfort them as needed. Likewise, be open about your own emotions and practice healthy, constructive communication.
A few good practices for emotional health aftercare include:
- Checking in and discussing how the act made you both feel. Did it bring up any negative emotions for either of you? If so, it’s important to soothe the hurt party and make them feel heard and respected.
- Snuggling and cuddling.
- Exchanging words of affirmation.
What Does a Rim Job Feel Like?
Wondering what it might feel like to experience analingus as the receiver? Since everyone’s body responds differently to touch, it’s hard to predict exactly how it will feel. The sensations can vary based on the receiver’s sensitivity, personal preferences, and the giver’s technique.
If you’re unsure whether you’ll enjoy having your booty attended to, consider asking yourself these questions:
1. “Do I enjoy having my anus touched or stimulated?”
If you find pleasure in anal stimulation, you might also enjoy incorporating rim jobs into your intimate activities.
2. “Do I enjoy receiving oral stimulation on other parts of my body?”
If the sensations of wetness and the unique touch of tongues and mouths bring you pleasure elsewhere, they might feel just as good when focused on your b-hole.
Another way to gauge whether receiving analingus is right for you is through self-exploration. You can simulate the experience by using your finger, a tongue-like sex toy, or a rim job sex toy along with plenty of lube to see how it feels.
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Eating Ass is an Art
While it may seem like a peculiar perspective to some, we believe that analingus is a form of art. Just like other art forms, rim jobs require practice to perfect. If your partner doesn’t have an earth-shattering experience the first time you attempt analingus, don’t be discouraged—keep practicing and trying again (as long as all parties are enthusiastic and willing, of course). Remember, skilled ass-eaters aren’t born; they’re made through dedication and experience.
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